How would you get along with your sibling(s), if you only met them for the first time today?
Well this is an interesting question! I almost skipped this writing topic and wrote a rant about the level of stupid in this world. I was immersed in plenty of stupid yesterday. But it's an awkward question to answer so I'm going to jump right in! I don't really have a relationship with my siblings.
My brother made some interesting life choices, I made my opinion known, big shocker there. May have made a few threats to his baby's mamma to get my point across and that wasn't taken very well. We haven't really talked since. The up side of this blow up is that it accomplished what needed to be done right at that time. It fixed more things compared to the number of new things that became broken. If things were left alone there would have been some funerals to attend. I wish I was being dramatic about that statement. I always wonder if we will reconnect in another couple decades. I guess only time will tell.
I have absolutely no idea why my sister and I don't talk. We have seen each other in passing and are always able to make awkward conversation. I imagine it has something to do with the brother situation, but I really have no idea. I do know she's mad at me about something. Exactly what, no idea! BF thinks it comes from a graduation dinner that I was only invited to 25 minutes prior, but I think it started way before that.
So I guess if I met them both for the first time today, we would get along fantastically! Kind of depressing to think about. Only late 2013 was I able to put the internal unrest to bed and accepted the situation for what it was. Nothing can be changed now. I've gotten much better at limiting the amount of crazy in my life. I no longer have to constantly remind myself to take an emotional step back away from the situation. I only have to remind myself once every couple months.
Wow this is a depressing post! I'm going to go hug a pup now. Maybe I should invite my sister over for dinner this next week...? Or maybe I'll just stick my hand inside a viper's cage at feeding time.
I think it depends on how you and your sister don't get along. My sister and I were really close growing up, and due to my parents' immaturity and poor choices, I was forced to take a parent role with her. I feel in a lot of ways like I raised all three of them. But when she went into college, she became a bit of a jerk. I think, looking back, that it was a time when she needed to become more independent and make her own choices and it wasn't safe for her to rebel and stand up to our parents, so I took the brunt of it. We get along better now than we did, and I have a feeling that after both of our parents have passed away, we will get along better than now. We sort of have differing views on our parents. But I will say, that if I were in a bind or someone else threatened me, my sister would be on them like a Pit Bull, and I would do the same for her! I think the basic fact is that we are the only two survivors of our rough childhood and we will always have that in common. I hope for you that you can reconnect with at least one of your siblings at some point!
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure how to categorize it. But I am going to cling to the fact that things might get better after both parents die! As far as loyalty in the fave of adversary, I would have a better change of just adopting a pibble!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you and your sister were able to become close again. It's funny how feelings and situations change over the years.